Relationship Dilemmas!!!

Disclaimer: Relationships refer to serious future oriented commitment of individuals (Section 377 respected) with a timeline of 6 months and above. Flings/affairs/timepass not considered :)

I happened to see this movie, "Break Ke Baad" a bollywood flick starring Imran Khan and Deepika Padukone and it makes me wonder, how complex relationships have become! Being ambitious and reaching for the sky is the order of the day and in the past was more of a manly affair! However, the women empowerment in the society of late have thrown open lots of instances which we didn't possibly fathom in the past.

Career and personal life is something each one of us juggles with. Priorities are always towards a career for most part of our lives as we are so programmed to think that getting a good education will destine you a fat salary and a good life. But most of us aren't masters of the trade and hence one of career or personal life take a back seat usually. And no prizes for guessing, which one actually does :)

Precisely where I come back to the movie (SPOILER ALERT!!), where two kids seem to be madly in love with each other but don't necessarily know what they want from life. While one is adventurous and wants to explore passions, the other feels relationship is the centre and everything else should fall by it. Conflict guaranteed!! As one partner feels the other is chocking and viceversa. This situation is so common in the society, two individuals coming together and falling apart due to such differences!

But is Break UP an answer? In most cases it usually becomes! A small research of mine shows that in nearly 3 out of 5 cases, the girl calls it quits! And when the tenure of the relationship is atleast 1 year, the next course becomes painful. And contrary to whats shown in bollywood movies, only a handful ( 2-3 out of 10) end up realizing and get hooked on to a marriage! Sorry state of affairs!

Solutions? Well,

Keeping the relationship in perspective for your career decisions?

Getting your partner on the same plane and discussing the consequences of options?

Compromises if required to keep relationship intact and yet realize career interests to some extent?

A little bit of maturity on career v/s relationship, better handling of shocks/situations (i got a job/admit abroad)?

Or, the tried and tested, get settled in your career and wait for your folks to get you hitched?

My view, well, relationships are built on foundations of trust and togetherness. It takes a moment to break and shatter them like glass! But a hell lot of time to recoup and rebind the bond! So...

"Think before you take a Break, coz Break Ke Baad sirf TV shows/movies wapas aate hain... maybe not Love!"